When Caregiving for an Aging Parent Stirs Up Old Emotional Pain

Hi there, it’s Crissy from CPA-Counseling. I wanted to talk to you about something quite a few of us go through, often in silence: the emotional toll of caring for an aging parent.

The Emotional Impact of Caregiving

It’s an enormous responsibility. Taking care of a loved one as they age can often leave us feeling overwhelmed, stressed, and emotionally drained. It can dredge up unresolved feelings from the past, which can be incredibly difficult to handle while trying to manage the practical aspects of caregiving.

You may even question your abilities: “Am I doing enough? Could I be a better caregiver?” If these thoughts sound familiar, please remember you’re not alone. Many people caring for their parents feel the same way.

Regaining Control through Boundaries

It’s vital to know that there are steps you can take to regain a sense of control. One of the first things is setting boundaries. Yes, you love your parents, but you are also an individual with your own needs. Find a balance between caregiving and preserving your life – it’s not selfish but self-care.

The Importance of Self-Care

Prioritize “me” time. You might feel a pang of guilt initially, but remember, taking care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally is crucial for you and your loved one. You can’t pour from an empty cup, as they say.

Delegating Tasks and Sharing the Burden

Then comes delegating tasks. If you have family members who can chip in, don’t hesitate to ask for help. You don’t have to shoulder this burden alone. Hiring professional caregivers for some tasks can also provide much-needed respite and a chance to recharge.

Addressing Resentment

Now, let’s talk about resentment. It’s a heavy word, but it’s a feeling many caregivers quietly battle. There’s nothing to be ashamed of here; feeling these emotions is okay. The key is in addressing them and working through them. Minor changes to your routine, seeking support from friends or a caregiver group, and talking it out can be immensely beneficial.

The Role of Therapy in Caregiving

Therapy can be a potent tool in navigating these emotionally charged waters. It can help you explore unresolved feelings, understand your emotions better, and equip you with coping strategies.

And that’s where we at CPA-Counseling come in. We’re here to provide you with the support and guidance you need during this challenging time. There is no shame in seeking help. It’s a testament to your strength and commitment to providing the best care for your loved one while also taking care of your mental well-being.

You’re not alone on this journey, and with the right tools and support, you can navigate this chapter of your life with resilience and grace. If you need help and support, know we are here to do just that. Cristina Panaccione and Associates Counseling has locations in the South Hills of Pittsburgh and Robinson Township. We also offer Virtual Therapy Sessions. We are currently accepting a limited number of new patients. Check out our services pages to learn how we can help you.


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